Feeling Overwhelmed With Life
I usually handle stress pretty well, but recently I feel things are out of control. With everything that is going on in the world and talk of the government shutdown, I feel more stressed than usual.
I find myself just eating anything and everything, especially ice cream. (daily) It's like I have no control over my life right now and it's not bothering me. I just want to eat.
What do you do to get over stressful moments? Do you have these times in your life where you feel you have no control and it doesn't bother you? Especially something you have no control over anyway.
We would love to hear from you.
Oh yes, I have it right now, stress and more stress, back problems very bad, husband stresses me out. Wishing my mom was here, Covid stress, don’t know if I should get anymore vaccines, causes me stress, medication stress, not diabetes meds, no one to talk to that understands, stress and diabetes, money stress, not sleeping. I was awake till 6 am this morning could not shut my brain off. Finally slept till 2 o’clock to many nights likes this. Without my mom to talk to I just can’t relieve my stress.
my councillor has Lupus but doesn’t really seem as frazzled as I am with diabetes she doesn’t have the diet regimen we do. 
Hi
. Lupus is certainly very different from diabetes. I can see how it would be hard to relate to each other. Diabetes requires daily (hourly, really) vigilance, but the payoff for that vigilance is control. If you can control your blood sugars, you can avoid many of the complications that come with diabetes. But there is no relaxing with diabetes, no time when you can pretend you don't have it. It can be mentally and physically exhausting. Lupus is the opposite. Someone with Lupus might have no obvious symptoms for months, but then be completely debilated by a flare that can last days, weeks or months, and that might cause permanent damage. They take expensive medication with potentially serious side effects to prevent flares without ever really knowing whether the medication is going to be effective. To live fully with Lupus means learning to make peace with that uncertainty. Does your counselor help you in other ways or do you feel you might be better off with someone who also has diabetes? - Lori (Team Member)
Hello
, So sorry you are going through so much. Believe it or not. I understand. I am 65 now. Lost my mom when I was 19. She was 37. She was my best friend ever. We talked about everything. I know how you feel about not having your mom around. They seem like they are the only ones who got us.
I understand the sleepless nights, with so much going on in all of our lives. Every day there is something new going on in the world that we have to worry about. The only thing I can say is to take it one day at a time. This is a great community if you need to talk. There are days we just need someone to listen.Thank you, yes I need someone to talk to that’s why I come here. It’s been really hard since my mom has been gone, we use to talk about everything, I would cry on the phone dealing with diabetes, and no one else to vent to, my husband isn’t the type that deals with tears very well, he’s been through a lot to, but he’s not a talker like me. I don’t hide my feelings, I find this disease very fustrating, and crave what I cannot eat, when I’m missing my mom I eat comfort food which is some choclate, I don’t go crazy on it, but some days, I feel the stress of diabetes, and the loss of my best friend my mom was a gentle person, never said a bad thing about anyone. But I just feel so beaten up about my diabetes, doctors just don’t get it. Even about losing my mom. The connection between a mother and daughter is so precious. And I lost that 8 years ago this Nov., It’s hard seeing others out and about with there moms, I want mine so bad. We would do our Christmas shopping together, we would go for lunch, we would go to the craft fairs at Christmas. It’s not the same anymore and it hurts, still to this day. I don’t think any grief group would help, I did go to a one on one with a volunteer at hospice, that was about a month after she died it didn’t help.
All my friends have moved away, but they didn’t really understand either. When my husbands brother died by suicide alls I wanted was my mom. And his other brother died of cancer like my mom, and it brought it all back of when my mom was sick and in hospice. I couldn’t even go visit him it was during Covid to. I just couldn’t bring myself to go through that again. I feel guilty for that. It was very hard seeing him through his cancer journey he looked so frail. And trying to keep my sugars good through all this was hard, trying to not eat things that you shouldn’t is sooooooooo hard so I can relate to you on that trust me.Before diabetes I never had stress, and could handle stressors but trying to control sugars while grieving or wishing my mom was here through all this. Is very difficult. It’s been a while since all this took place but it’s the after that makes it hard to cope the memories. I do talk to a counsellor but she’s not diabetes informed, so I think it’s harder to relate.
Hi
, I'm really so sorry to hear that you are dealing with so much stress. This community hopefully can provide you a place to vent and discuss your situation openly. I can't imagine the stress you are dealing with on a daily basis. Our website has a section related to emotional complications of dealing with Type 2 diabetes. We have amazing articles that you may find helpful. Please know that we are always here for you. Wishing you the best, Lauren (team member) https://type2diabetes.com/emotional-complications-diabetes
I do my diabetes by diet and excercise, the best I can, I don’t want to take medication because of the side effects. I have a hard time with medications, the one I take for depression is causing so many side effects constipation, grogginess, actually I don’t think it was depression it was a few weeks after I was diagnosed with diabetes, that I was put on antidepressants, I was so new at being a diabetic and overwhelmed and scared, after others told me all the scary things that could happen and no support after hearing all this of course your going to be scared and trying to get my diet in place was really overwhelming I was in tears. My spouse was not very understanding because he didn’t have diabetes at the time this was 11 years ago, he found out 2 years ago he has it now to, he seems more angry about it. Everyone is different. I was the one who figured it out that he had it, he was losing weight and blurry vision, so I said I want to check your sugars with my meter and sure enough his sugars were 22, so I said you need to go to the doctors and he did, and he did all what you do a fasting test, ect. And was put on Metformin,, Thank god I knew what to look out for and did the finger prick with my meter. It’s been a lot in these past few years. And still not a lot of support for all of this. I was scared to be home alone in case I got a low, when I was diagnosed, I hate the diet restrictions, it’s hard when you go out for dinner, it’s fustrating when you eat at someone’s house for dinner, and there’s not much you can eat because of your diabetes, ect ect there’s so many factors around diabetes that doctors just don’t get or other family members.
Hello
, I wish I could give you a hug right now. You are dealing with a lot at the moment, and I am sorry. I know there is nothing I can do, but I'm really glad you're sharing this. It's okay, not to be okay.
