There are so many things that can impact diabetes management. One aspect that can particularly be overlooked is grief. I wanted to use this forum thread as a space to talk about how grief can impact diabetes management.
I like to add, I didn’t have a lot of support from my doctor when I was diagnosed with diabetes, especially the part where you are scared when diagnosed and what you go through the diet the emotions, I cried this disease is very hard to live with, my mom was there for comfort and could talk to her about it all, I lost her and her support. Now my doctor is retiring and now have no doctor which stresses me out more than ever, we have a doctor shortage here in Canada. He doesn’t seem concerned, doesn’t seem to care. I’m upset, when you have diabetes it’s very important to have a good doctor who understands what you go through with this disease. With everything else going on and now this. It could take a long time to get another doctor, and this time I want one who is compassionate towards me when it comes to my diabetes. And not brush me off when I was in distress after a year of dealing with this everyday. Just because I was doing okay with my A1c doesn’t mean your not feeling the pressure with this disease, he didn’t get that part. Juggling life around diabetes is hard and exhausting. I’m not sugar coating it, this is true. There is no outside support for people with diabetes, family members do not get how stressful it can be like my adult kids don’t seem to get it. Or my friends. With grief or diabetes.
I think you illustrate, very descriptively, how grief can impact a person and how that's amplified with diabetes. Sleep, eating habits, stress, mental health, etc. from grief all relate to one another and impact diabetes management. This line, "Just because I was doing okay with my A1c doesn’t mean your not feeling the pressure with this disease." Also really spoke to me, I think many others in the community can also relate.
I know people grieve in different ways and it can ebb and flow on different days or times of year. I'm glad you have a counselor, but if you ever want to talk about your mom or other loved ones that passed away in this forum/community, please feel free to.
Sending gentle hugs,
Minel (Team Member)
hello. first and foremost, consider yourself fortunate ton have a a1c in in the 6's ! indeed I wish I could without great struggles. Second, death is as natural as it gets, your mom was lucky to have lived a good long life, rejoice in this; some of us have wives, children who have been taken at early ages. My case, my wife was killed by an impaired driver, 6 months later to die of a kidney diesease... poeitic justice? karma? who the hell cares, I was widowed at 47 years old, my children were without a mother at ages 7 and 9. I grieved, still do, you have no idea. I was diagnosed 6 months after with T2 its been 14 years. Life goes on, because it must and so should we. Try reding some Marcus Aurelius; and suck it up a bit! Cheers.
I am sorry for your loss, my mom raised us kids on her own and she did a great job with us. Grief is very hard especially when it’s tragic, my dad was a great dad miss him to. It was difficult growing up with out him. He missed out on so much, seeing his grandchildren, seeing me get married, ect.