Not my primary…
Hello all,
I have a gripe. It’s been building for a while.
Nearly every time I see a healthcare provider they feel the need to comment on my diabetes and/or my weight.
What they don’t know is that I have extreme PTSD stemming from unethical medical care as it relates to an intersex condition. Every medical appointment is challenging. Every medical interaction can potentially trigger me. I have to be extremely careful.
So… if you (medical provider) aren’t my primary, please STFU. Don’t tell me how dangerous my health is or how to lose weight or in any way jeopardize my mental health.
I’ve worked really hard to get where I am.
Thanks,
Spoon
My heart goes out to you,
. That must be very difficult to deal with. If you haven't already, would you consider messaging your doctors with this same information and asking that a note be put on your file? Your PTSD is a medical condition and something they should be made well aware of, especially if even visiting a doctor is such a struggle. Sending lots and lots of gentle hugs your way. - Lori (Team Member) Ohhh man. I know how you feel. My PTSD is due to sexual abuse as a child and sexual assaults as an adult. Every health care provider talks about my weight too. It's frustrating because there is part of me that believes it's "safer" to be fat since less men pay attention to us - making for less men asking me out - making it less likely to have to say "no" (we've been physically assaulted and threatened for saying no in the past). I know how absolutely dreadful it is. I know how demeaning it is. It's horrible. 🙁 My endo doesn't understand how much my weight is tied to my PTSD so she always chooses meds that are also "great for weight loss". I just laugh to myself because my subconscious will find a way to negate that. I don't have any real advice, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone at all.
Thank you. I've healed a lot but the weight issue is one that I haven't resolved yet. My therapist is awesome. 😀 My primary care seems to get it now but endo just doesn't. I am thrilled to hear that you have healed,
, and that you have two medical professionals in your corner. Sometimes specialists are too focused on the specifics of their fields to really notice anything else. If it continues to be a problem, maybe you could ask your primary care doctor or your therapist to send a message to the endo on your behalf. Thinking of you. - Lori (Team Member)
